A few weeks ago, the hearing in my left ear went down by 40
decibels. Adjusting to that has been challenging, especially as life starts
moving from staying at home to venturing out into public spaces. At home, I have
some control over the sounds in the house. If the washer is too loud for me, I
can go to my room for some quiet. This past Monday, we went out to dinner for
the first time since we started sheltering in place, and it was a glimpse of my
new normal. Between the music and the ambient noise, I could not hear anything
people said without a lot of concentration. Even then, it only went well about
30% of the time. People wearing masks makes it even harder to hear. I am
already tired of asking people to repeat themselves, and for now, I am much
more comfortable being at home.
About a week or so after the hearing loss, I started to have
moments of dizziness. They would last anywhere from one to ten minutes at a
time. Now, it is almost the reverse. This is now day three, with mostly
non-stop dizziness. Vertigo often comes with hearing loss and tinnitus like
mine. The hearing loss seems pretty minor now in comparison. While the hearing
loss presented some challenges, I found myself starting to adapt. I know to
pause the TV or music if someone is talking to me. People closest to me know,
so they are patient when I tell them I didn’t hear them for the third or fifth
time. But the dizziness, that is something else entirely.
I call it dizziness for lack of a better word. I am not yet
sure what to call it, but dizziness doesn’t quite explain it. It also comes in
various forms. When it started, I would suddenly get the spins. The whole room
would just spin as though I had way too much to drink. I would usually happen
when I was lying down, if I moved my head too fast or if sounds were overwhelming.
Since Tuesday, things have been different. Sometimes the room still spins. Most
of the time, I feel like I am spinning or moving, and everything else has
stopped. I can feel it in my whole body, and I constantly feel like I am going
to lose my balance and fall. It has happened, but only a little bit here and
there.
Walking down the stairs is scary. I cling to the rail and
lean toward on wall, taking it one step at a time. If I forgot something and
need to go back upstairs, I put it off until I absolutely have to. Carrying
things in my hands while walking downstairs is the worst, and I can’t imagine
trying to navigate it in the dark. Something that just a week ago, I did automatically.
Looking up while standing is like having the floor open up below me, and I am
filled with the sensation of free-falling. Paying attention, holding a
conversation, and even writing requires an exhausting level of concentration,
and I struggle with all of it. I feel like I am letting everyone down. My son
has commented that I seem to have something new wrong with me every week. It’s
hard to do the things I usually do with him because of the sounds and movement.
It’s difficult doing the things I need to do in business, and that is letting my
business partner down. I am cranky, and that is having impacts at home. Sometimes,
I don’t know what to do.
I called my ENT, who has prescribed some dizziness and
nausea medication. Nausea hasn’t started yet, but it feels like it might. I am
not one to feel queasy after a spinning ride or anything like that, but now I
am on my fourth day of it being non-stop, and it is wearing me down. In fact,
this whole thing is wearing me down. I’m actively trying to fight off
depression and not doing such a great job at it. Part of the problem is that
there is no forgetting about it, not even for a minute or two. When I had the
stroke, there would be moments when I would forget, and those moments were
incredible. Yes, there was the harsh moment of reality at some point, but to
forget for just a few minutes was a gift. So far, I haven’t been able to
forget. Maybe its too new, perhaps that’s how it’s going to be.
I start my dizziness medication today, and the doctor wants
an MRI as soon as possible. Maybe it will show something. For now, I am just
hoping the medicine works. I'm tired of being a dizzy blonde.